Happy with Shame Theory
""When I feel like I've done something wrong, I feel ashamed, self-doubting, depressed, and I want to hide from everyone!""
Shame, that feeling of being utterly unworthy, that voice that despises oneself, always feeling that one is not good enough, inferior, wanting to hide, hating oneself... How absurd!
Is shame really that annoying? Shame acts as the ugly man, boldly stepping forward when you are avoiding the mistakes you have made, shouting loudly, asking you to honestly face your dark side? Only by facing your mistakes can you live with dignity. There is a reason for shame! Shame, in fact, helps you. Many people avoid, fear, and even want to conquer and criticize shame, thinking it is an ""unhealthy negative emotion"", but this book affirms the significance and value of shame itself. Shame is even a unique emotion of human beings, the purpose of which is to enable people to reform. The shame discussed in this book is not only on a personal level, but also on the level of family, school, and even national and ethnic groups. Due to the Chinese mentality of loving face, the unhealthy shame of Chinese society and families is particularly serious. However, we can learn to know ourselves and know God from shame. In the face of shame, in addition to learning to distinguish emotions, we also need to learn to distinguish right from wrong, and become a person who can correct mistakes and maturely understand the principles.
Is shame really that annoying? Shame acts as the ugly man, boldly stepping forward when you are avoiding the mistakes you have made, shouting loudly, asking you to honestly face your dark side? Only by facing your mistakes can you live with dignity. There is a reason for shame! Shame, in fact, helps you. Many people avoid, fear, and even want to conquer and criticize shame, thinking it is an ""unhealthy negative emotion"", but this book affirms the significance and value of shame itself. Shame is even a unique emotion of human beings, the purpose of which is to enable people to reform. The shame discussed in this book is not only on a personal level, but also on the level of family, school, and even national and ethnic groups. Due to the Chinese mentality of loving face, the unhealthy shame of Chinese society and families is particularly serious. However, we can learn to know ourselves and know God from shame. In the face of shame, in addition to learning to distinguish emotions, we also need to learn to distinguish right from wrong, and become a person who can correct mistakes and maturely understand the principles.
